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Published June 14, 2021

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Let me get this out of the way: I am not anti-Find A Grave.

True, I’ve had my differences with some of the more competitive aspects displayed by people who create memorials for the recently deceased with whom they have no relationship.

But it’s also true that this database of “final dispositions” accompanied by a massive number of photos of gravestones has a reach that individuals cannot match by themselves.

I’ve been able to experience online in my armchair seeing tombstones that would have required travel time and then the field work of actually finding the stone on a large cemetery. I’m thankful every time that happens.

But there are other times when I’m getting weary of really bad mistakes being made that then cascade into false generations.

Here’s just one example. The names—as those of us old enough to recall Jack Webb’s Sgt. Joe Friday’s immortal line on “Dragnet”—have been changed to protect the innocent.

So on a pedigree there’s a logical looking ancestor for Joseph Reist born in 1839—a man named Peter Willoughby Reist born in 1802. So far, so good, although it occurred to me that “Willoughby” wasn’t a name usually in use early in the 19th century.

Assuming the Reists were (as they appeared to be) a Pennsylvania German family, it would have been odd for Peter to have any middle name—or if he had two given names, he likely would have been baptized Johann Peter or Hans Peter and gone by Peter in his everyday usage.

At first glance, the Find A Grave memorial for Peter Willoughby Reist echoed what was on the pedigree chart—born 1802, died 1883, aged 81 years and some months. When I eyeballed the tombstone, the “0” in 1802 looked more like a six and I couldn’t see an “8” in the age check, either.

Then I saw Joseph Reist’s family in the 1880 U.S. Census … and that it included a Peter Willoughby Reist, age 19.

Uh oh.

A little more research revealed a newspaper article from—you guessed it!—1883 in which the accidental death of Peter Willoughby was recorded.

That “0” I thought was a “6” and the age check discrepancy?

Yep.

Peter Willoughby Reist wasn’t Joseph Reist’s father.

He was his son.

Find A Grave is no worse than any other secondhand source. The irony in this case was that the primary data on which the source was based (the tombstone) was right there, staring me in the proverbial face and dying for correction.

Hopefully it will be corrected on Find A Grave … the memorial’s manager has been contacted.

10 Comments

  1. Lois Smith

    4 years ago  

    While findagrave has been extremely helpful to me in finding ancestors and complete birth and death dates and, like you said, seeing headstones I would not otherwise be able to see in person, I too have found quite a few mistakes and always send a notification to the creator of the memorial. My own paternal grandparents’ information was incorrect on findagrave as set up by someone else on the website. I sent a notification and it has since been corrected. I use the site cautiously!


  2. Sheryl Wildoner

    4 years ago  

    What can I say….I agree with you and have had mixed results asking folks to make the corrections. Some are happy to make the correction and many ask if they can now hand off to a family member. GREAT… I am happy to have them assign it to me. Biggest issue is with “family” that insist that their entry is correct, even after you have provided the source documents and explanation as to why it is not. I do want to thank all that step up and do the photos for those of us that cannot travel to do it, you are very much appreciated.


    • 4 years ago  

      Ah, family stories that people think should trump reality! Too bad when that’s the case!


  3. toni

    4 years ago  

    My problem is that my grandmother’s birth year is off by 13 years. She was very much younger than my grandfather and I suspect the kids took a wild guess at her birth year. I wish there was some way to fix her stone. I did make a note on her findagrave page.


    • 4 years ago  

      … that’s a good use of Find A Grave. As far as fixing the stone, I suppose the current engraving could be wiped out and a new one carved, but there’d be an expense …


  4. Marjorie C. Younglof

    4 years ago  

    I have seen MANY mistakes on Find A Grave. Some “owners” of the memorials are good about fixing their errors, but the majority don’t care. I’ve often asked them to transfer ownership of the memorial to me, and sometimes they are willing to do so. Errors in family trees get repeated from tree to tree. I’ve seen that also. As a serious family historian, I’m perturbed that so many folks do not care about accuracy.


    • 4 years ago  

      … I agree! I’m glad some owners are cooperative! But can’t figure out why some people don’t value accuracy …


  5. Matthew Behnke

    4 years ago  

    Find a Grave contributors are purely volunteer, and therefore, the quality of their work varies considerably. I am thankful for Billion Graves and the vast array of death and cemetery records that exist outside of Find a Grave. That said, pre-existing records, as well as Billion Graves, are also rife with errors. You should see some of BG’s transcriptions! Plus there are a billion bugs with the site and app. That said, both FG and BG are vital to genealogy and are so important for getting swarms of people (mistake prone, though they may be) involved in doing family history research.